Why Would Women Listen to Derrick Jackson After Hearing How He Treated His Wife?
Dania Jackson came out last week sharing her side of what transpired between her and her husband Derrick Jackson. She shared details from the beginning all the way until now. The lingering question after listening to the details of Dania Jackson is why are women still following and listening to Derrick Jackson after finding out he is a fraud? I’m not going to pretend to have all of the answers because I don’t. However, could it be because the need for the truth is so great?
While Derrick Jackson may not have practiced his advice on how to treat women; much of the advice that I’ve heard from him was true. In a world where women face many difficulties from misogynistic teachings to Black women being stereotyped into being only one type of woman by viral YouTube hosts.
Women may be looking for safe spaces to just be. Overlooking the person providing the information may be something that women are deciding to do. Just like many overlooked the brokenness that followed viral YouTube host, Kevin Samuels.
It’s not very much different. People will choose to listen to what they feel is feeding their needs. That doesn’t make it right, however. Listening to a man preach one thing and practice another can feed into the lie that men are just one particular way. This isn’t true and harmful to a woman’s faith who is believing in God for more in her life.
I’d recommend doing what his wife Dania did. She shared she has unfollowed all of his social media. Doing so will allow her to put the past behind her quicker as she works through her healing process. It’s very important as single women desiring healthy marriage that we guard what we believe about men in general. If we allow ourselves to only focus on the negative experiences with men; we can train ourselves to believe that is all there is.
We open the door to confirmation bias, which is where we continue to have experiences based on what we believe. If we desire more for ourselves; we have to place more healthier examples before our eyes. Meditating on things, people, and relationships that are in line with the word of God will help us to see that those examples are possible.
Meanwhile, we take the wisdom from the unhealthy examples and move on. What can we take from Dania and Derrick Jackson’s example? We can look at what drew Dania to the relationship and avoid following the same pitfall. We can be honest with ourselves by dealing with our trauma, ideas, and mindsets that are not in line with a healthy God-fearing woman. Finally, we can take responsibility to make better choices as we become healthier women. Join Singles Living For Christ Facebook Group for a healthy safe space for single men and women.
This is the journey Dania is on at this moment. She’s already come a long way. Watch Dania’s interviews below:
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