We all have had those times when we have struggled with our appearance as women especially single women. Sometimes, we can feel like the baddest chick, and at other times we can feel like nothing we do to improve or highlight our beauty is enough.
The latter seems to always be apparent when there is that guy that seems just like the perfect guy, but for whatever reason he slips away, and we begin to blame or question ourselves thinking maybe I should have been prettier like this girl or that girl, and all along God is saying, but I made you perfect. Perfect in the fact that we are lacking nothing as women with our very own unique beauty to be as beautiful, and bold as God envisioned for us to be.
The last time I had those feelings the Lord begin to deal with me about a few things. He spoke into my spirit saying, “Your Beauty is in your Uniqueness.” In other words, there is no one else quite like me. Even though there are look-a-likes in the world, there is no one who could possess everything so to the “T” that when you see them it’s just like seeing me.
From our birth marks to our skin tones, facial features, hair texture, beautiful eyes that incite intrigue, voice, and yes those curves. All of these things are the workings of the Lord our artist, and the best part of it all is no matter how any of these features change in us, He still loves us unconditionally.
Another thing that God used to encourage me was his word that says:
We are the handiwork of God… Ephesians 2:10
Who would dare call the work of the Lord shoddy or not good enough? That is what we do when we put ourselves down because our beauty may not be up to par with that of others. God made us unique, and that is beautiful.
The last thing that God used to encourage me was a word from the Lord. Thankfully, I have been blessed to work with lots of saved co-workers. One morning before getting ready for work, I had done my hair and lip gloss, plus mascara like I normally do, and I was looking kind of cute. I thought to myself, I am cute today just not cute enough to get a godly mature man of God.
Sidenote: There is so much stacked against women that sometimes we can droop into the negative if we are not careful. They say: There are more women than me, Black women are disproportionately single and will not marry, and then there is the fear of not being beautiful enough to attract an appropriate gentlemen because men basically have their choice. I talked with a very mature married man of God about this and he shared with me that it isn’t so much the physical beauty that a man of God is looking for, but the woman’s ability to remain hidden in Christ as a single woman. He shared that men of God want that deeper connection than just beauty and that can only be had with a certain type of woman. So ladies, Know your worth. We are definitely more than just that physical thing.
Back to the word from the Lord: So, I got to work and without me even mentioning to my co-worker how I felt, she shared with me that I had struggled with my image from time to time, and that despite that struggle God wants me to know that I am beautiful. She shared how when God puts a man and a woman together the woman doesn’t have to take on persona to be this type of girl or that type of girl that maybe she feels would be more acceptable or beautiful to the man. She shared that the man that God had for me would love my style and the way that I carry myself, and that it is just beautiful how God puts that together. She shared that it really doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks at that point
only the couple and the two will be so happy and satisfied with one another.
Did you know that the Lord is concerned about your self-esteem? He is concerned about every aspect of us that leads to wholeness. That includes mind, body, and spirit. God doesn’t want us just thinking anything about ourselves. He wants our thinking about ourselves to come on up to his standard. That is why God corrected the way that I was thinking with a word of wisdom. If God doesn’t check our wrong thinking, then we will continue to believe wrong about ourselves, and begin to settle for less, but less isn’t what God has for us. He has his best, and in order to receive God’s best, we have to be whole.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…Romans 12:2
For as he thinks in his heart, so is he… Proverbs 23:7
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