Continuing from last week’s two keys to bounce back from brokenness. Below are three more important keys that we will need to have.
Have a Close Unit of Godly Friends:
Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (KJV)
The above scripture is often applied to married people, but it is just as applicable to single individuals as well. God often puts together godly ties with other believers to protect his children. Contrary to what some may believe as a single man or woman, you do not have to walk alone. Learn to be thankful for those relationships that God has put in your life such as friends, cousins, brothers, sisters, fathers, and mothers. Utilize these relationships to help you to stand with support knowing that you aren’t in this alone. You are stronger together. These relationships often bring about healing that we don’t even realize.
Guard Yourself from Toxic People:
Tamar, in the story discussed in part one did well to isolate herself from Amnon. Now knowing his character, he isn’t one to hang around. It can only be wise to guard ourselves from being too close from those who do not value us. The danger in allowing ourselves to be close to those who do not value us is that it will eventually cause us not to value ourselves, and that can get us stuck. It isn’t God’s will for us to be stuck, but for us to always be moving forward in the identity and purpose that God has pre-ordained for us. Thus, we gotta cut some people sometimes and that is okay.
Do something Cool, Nice, New, or Fun for Yourself:
What do you like to do for fun? What do you like to do to remind yourself that you are worth it? Worth what? Worth love, affection, and experiencing the best that life has to offer. Some things that I do for myself include taking myself out to eat almost every week while I read a book as I am waiting on my food. If I am in a new neighborhood for something, I may explore the neighborhood looking at unfamiliar restaurants, and stores. Recently, I had to go to a new neighborhood for a television interview, and I explored a restaurant that had some amazing Jambalaya.
Prepping for my video blogs allows me to try different makeup looks which I love to do. It is so much fun being a woman. We can try different hairstyles, fashion, and makeup looks all the time. It is so exciting. I even recently perfected applying false lashes lol. It took me some time to get this child!
Scripture admonishes women to adorn ourselves. There is a reason why it is important for us to adorn ourselves. We need to see ourselves as the beautiful women that God has made us to be. We are just to do this in a manner that doesn’t bring inappropriate attention. Many focus on the part of scripture that says to dress modestly, but not on the command to adorn ourselves which means to dress up, celebrate, or decorate ourselves.
This is so important. Another thing that I love to do for myself is to get dressed up and go to a concert of one of my favorite artists and take pics of course. It’s all appropriate self-love and self-care. We will need to carry this habit into our marriages when the Lord does bless us one day, so that we do not lose who we are in the responsibilities of marriage, children, and family life. These things should be a blessing to us and not a burden.
When marriage and family become a burden; It may be time for appropriate self-care.
We cannot wait for someone else to come into our lives and remind us that we are worth it. We have to be willing to do this for ourselves. We have to capture every negative thought as 2 Corinthians 10:5 says and get on with living.
There is complete healing and restoration that can take place after brokenness if we follow these guidelines and choose not to give up. Things will get better, and after a while the hurt that we once felt from the brokenness will seem oh so far away. Let’s enjoy this journey of life, and enjoy being made whole in Christ
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