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Don’t Let your Feelings of Being Alone Make you Trade in your Wifey Qualities

As single women of God, we go through a lot. We are consistently faced with the feelings of being alone and rejection in lieu of our desires to love and to be loved. If we are not careful, we can allow our feelings to rob us out of our inheritance in Christ through devaluing ourselves.

Many women devalue themselves because of being tired of this struggle and give in to the pressure of settling for whatever comes her way. She loses those qualities that make her stand out to the spouse that God has for her taking on the identity of someone else instead. This isn’t God’s will for his daughters, but he gives us the unique strength to maintain who we are while realizing our value and worth along the way.

One of our most virtuous and sought after qualities that we carry as women being made into godly wives is our trustworthiness. I love how the King James version puts it below:

The heart of her husband does safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. Proverbs 31:11

In other words, a man with a virtuously trust worthy wife knows that he can go to work, out of town or wherever he has to go and have the peace to know that his wife will be faithful to him. Men of God hold that at high value and high prize. Some men have been so worried about this that they try to control their wives. Even worse, in some cultures of Africa women’s private area would be sewn up when the husband went to work, and un-sewn when he came home.

The fear of mistrust toward a bride is completely non-existent for the wise man who has been graced to get a virtuous woman of God. He finds a place of safety and rest in a trustworthy wife. He doesn’t have to wonder whether he has chosen the right one who will be faithful to him. He already knows that because a virtuous woman remains faithful to God during her season of singleness allowing herself to be made by the hand of God into the virtuous woman that the Bible speaks about.

Being single in a lot of ways is a process of being made to handle the maturity that comes with the marriage relationship. Romans puts hardship in this way:

Not only so, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character, and character, hope. Romans 5:3-4

There is a purpose in our suffering, that produces perseverance which is the ability to stick things out through the hard times even when the situation doesn’t change. Perseverance becomes a natural part of our character, and thus we walk straight into what it is that we were hoping for all along. God has to get us ready for the things that he has promised us. If only all singles male and female could get that revelation.

Ladies, we have to start knowing who we are and knowing our worth, so that when the enemy comes to us with lies saying that we will always be alone or rejected because we don’t put out and aren’t willing to compromise, we can respond with who we know we are encouraging ourselves in the Lord saying I am beautiful and I am trustworthy, and these qualities make me unique to the man that God has set aside for me. Not only that, but it’s through maintaining our identity in Christ that we can truly be ourselves, and maintain our God-given dignity.

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What is love Really?

Love is continuing to love through imperfections. Love is Christ.

Recently, the Lord has been dealing with me in prayer regarding some family members that can be challenging to love. I love how God uses natural things to speak of himself. To point us back to him and to mirror our relationship with him.

For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. Romans 1:20 (ESV)

I recently had a situation where a family member that I am getting to know has been pretty mean to me on more than one occasion. The last thing that this family member did was the last straw. I was so upset at her to the point where I could not respond to her for two days because I knew I would not have anything to say. I was so floored at her behavior.

My brother called me and I shared how upset I was that I did not know what to do. I wanted to get back at her and I wanted to cut her off, and as I got off the phone with my brother the thought came to my mind, “Do you love her?” I said to myself I did not know if I loved her. Well, I guess according to the Biblical definition of love that would be something that I would need to work on. I made it my resolve to pray about my family member and see what God thought before I responded.

As I prayed for my relative, I was reminded that love is not love or only necessary when it is easy to love people, but it is most necessary and heartfelt when it is difficult to love people. God placed it on my heart that he wanted me to be an example of his love to her, and at the same time use her to mirror his love to me in that despite my imperfections I am still worthy of love.

Love is consistency through the imperfections. We become perfected in love. Real love is Christ. Christ showed his love to us in that while we were yet in our sins, Christ died for the ungodly. Because God made a choice to love us while we were unfit for love; we now walk as whole and complete individuals in Christ.

It is a similar situation with my relative and I. Though, she has been mean and imperfect, I can through God’s grace that he has shown toward me remember how I need God’s love to cover my imperfections and thus cover my relative’s imperfections through walking in love.

It is something how God uses our natural relationships to mirror our relationship with him. How he has placed me into a relationship with my relative that I cannot escape and although difficult both her and I become better for it. She gives me a certain look as if she is afraid of rejection when she knows she has done something wrong, but instead of being difficult, I can choose to in love give her grace. Just like when we do something wrong and shy from God’s presence, God deals with us still according to love.

God’s word goes on to say that nothing can separate us from the love of Christ and it names off some things: Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all Creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:37-38

God is trying to prove a point here. He is trying to communicate the depth of his love, and even so we still have not totally gotten it. God in his consistent care of us provides examples that are tangible to remind us of the simple fact that he loves us. His love is so deep that it takes a special revelation just to get how deep his love is for us. It isn’t based on our works, worthiness, or perfection.

Recently, God had exposed some things to me that were in my heart that weren’t right, and I was sort of upset with myself thinking Russelyn, how could you have this in your heart, you are supposed to be better, but God’s comfort to me was in the fact that he still loved me in spite of myself and the things that he had shown me that he’s been working on in me. We become perfected through God’s love. God’s perfect love casts out all fear. We no longer come to God in fear of failing him or being rejected by him because we know that he is on our side to love us all the way to the expected end that he has for us. Just like with my relative.

What are some of the examples that God has given you in your personal life of his great love toward you? Are you embracing those things or people? Pray to God to continue to reveal his love toward you and in you and he will?

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Are your desires hid in Christ?

I remember when I was a teenager my brothers and I used to watch what was called, “The Box”. The box was a local music television channel that broadcasts urban music videos. This was before the digital television when all of the channels were on analog which meant that at times if we hooked up an extra antenna or hanger with some wires to the TV we could get additional channels that we would not normally get.

Anywho, we had the television set up to receive The Box, which was a big deal to teenage kids at the time. My brothers and I were home-schooled, and when school was not in session we used the school room as personal space to pray.

One of my brothers had finished praying and it was my turn to go into the school room to pray. I walked through the living room where TLC’s waterfalls video was playing on, “The Box.” I remember my state of mind around that time. I was a typical teenager that wanted a boyfriend, to feel beautiful like the girls in the videos, and to be loved.

It is ironic that I remember what I prayed for during that day, and not only that day, but that season of my life. I prayed for my desires to become the desires that God had for me. I prayed for God’s will for my life, and for our heart’s desires to be one. Such a big prayer from a young girl unlearned. I did not realize at the time how much in line with God’s will I was actually praying.

An interesting thing to note is that the more time I spent praying in God’s presence and acknowledging him, the more my desires began to dissipate and the desires that God had for me in him began to become the norm for what I wanted.

Slowly, but surely I no longer wanted a boyfriend as a teenager. Instead, I began to grow a hunger within me for more of the presence of God and fellowship with God. Little did I know that my desires actually weren’t dissipating for what I wanted, but they were being hid in Christ. Now, that I am older I understand that God took my natural desires that I had and simply shaped them according to his will. It wasn’t that I was giving them up altogether, but that pleasing God and being near to him became more important than what I wanted.

What I placed my value on during that season simply began to change. It reminds me of where I am currently meditating on in God’s word:

Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. Matthew 6:19-20

If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth. For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in God. Colossians 3:1-3

God uses an emphasis on being hidden in him to teach us what to place our value on. When we get into seeking earthly things, we can easily open ourselves up to corruption in particularly the corruption of seeking things over Christ. There is nothing wrong with having a desire for things especially God-given desires, but we need to hide those desires in Christ and in his will for us to avoid corruption. I have had many desires thus far in my life that have become unfolded and revealed into reality just by seeking and following Christ.

For example: My desire to write was accomplished through being obedient to Christ. The desire to teach young people about abstinence in public high schools was fulfilled through following him, and also meeting more mature and godly men and women of God. Even normal stuff like wearing cute clothes and getting deals on beautiful hairstyles have been accomplished through following and obeying God. I have so many testimonies.

The point of it all is everything that we need was given to us when we received Christ. This is why God’s word instructs us to seek first his kingdom and righteousness and all other things will be added unto us. Seeking Christ and keeping him at the center of our hearts is what is necessary. It keeps us from corruption, idolatry, and having things in the wrong season where they can be harmful for us.

His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory and goodness. 2 Peter 1:3

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ. (Ephesians 1:3, NIV)


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God is good. He doesn’t ask us to give up certain things that he has placed a desire in us for without the expectation that he will fulfill those desires in his season, but he simply asks us to focus on and look to him knowing that he is good and that he is who he says he is. This is what it means to delight ourselves in the Lord and we will have the desires of our heart.

That scripture isn’t a formula for God to play some type of a Santa Claus or Genie based on a few fake Hallelujahs and Thank you Jesus’. Delighting in the Lord is a lifestyle where our desires become hidden in him through rest and trust in him.

It’s ironic that the video playing on the box was TLC’s waterfalls which is reminisce of how a lot of us treat Christ at times. We have a consistent stream of all that we need in Christ yet we are off chasing waterfalls or other streams just like the world in hopes to achieve what’s already been promised to us in Christ. Hide your affections in him and watch them come to pass in purity and in glory toward the one who delights to give us good things, but most of all wants our heart and affection for him.

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Series on Sisterhood Finale: Contentment

Contentment is the key to overcoming covetousness. Jealousy and covetousness go hand in hand. Jealousy causes a person to be discontent with what she has and covetousness causes her to want what her sister has.

I was reading the below scripture and it just stood out to me that contentment is the key to overcoming covetousness:


Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as you have; for he hath said, I will never leave you, nor forsake you. Hebrews 13:25

If we can become content where we are, we can overcome covetousness, which is a very strong desire for something that God has not said belongs to us. Usually, we began becoming covetous through comparing ourselves with what someone else has, but we have to be content with the path that God has given us to walk. Covetousness can lead to being possessive and controlling over something that the Lord has not given us. James says it best.

You lust and desire to have. You kill and covet yet you do not have because you ask not and when you do ask it is only to consume your lusts. You adulterous or idolatrous people (James 4:1-3).

We cannot make idols out of our desires seeking only to gratify them. We have to seek God sincerely even when it means denying ourselves and saying no to the things that we want. Let’s allow our focus to be on being content where we are. Where we know God has called us instead of acquiring what we think we want

To sum up what we have learned and gone over in this series on sisterhood, the key points have been:

  • The importance of sisterhood
  • Understanding rejection as a root to jealousy, competition, and spite that often separates women
  • Self-love as a foundation to prevent such things starting with learning our worth and acceptance from God first
  • Applying that love and worth toward ourselves and projecting that love onto others including our sisters
  • Recognizing jealousy, and an inappropriate response to the emotion of jealousy versus humility that requires work.
  • Loving our sisters through hard times such as when liking the same guy
  • Contentment with ourselves appreciating the unique things about us that make us who we are

 All of these things applied will help us to stand together as women of strength, love and dignity representing our God and maximizing our fullest potential as women. I hope everyone enjoyed this Series on Sisterhood as much as I did.Enjoy the finale video below:

A friend loves at all times, and a brother (sister) is born for a time of adversity. Proverbs 17:17

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Why Being a Virgin is no Joke: Thoughts on Born Again Virgin Show and Media’s Portrayal of Virgins

TV One has a new show out that highlights the hot topic of virginity. Everyone seems to be jumping on the band wagon, but everyone’s contribution to the topic is not necessarily beneficial to those of us who are seeking to maintain our virginity until marriage.

Some positives about the show is that it is starting a conversation on a serious topic that affects the well-being and health of a woman mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and socially. It also gives a lot of Black actors a job that we have not seen work in a long time, and the show is written by an all female writing team.

However, in my opinion not everything is positive about the show, but it’s a comedy and meant to entertain not to promote the ideal of doing things God’s way. Comedy is cool and fine to draw viewers and keep them drawn in, something I believe the show has done well, but rather suggestively and if you are a serious virgin like me, it may not be your show of choice if you want to continue down the path of purity.

I ain’t ashamed to say what my flesh cannot handle right now as a single woman because my flesh ain’t saved. It is just under subjection and just like it is under subjection it can get from under subjection if I allow it. So, I personally choose not to fan the flame.

Just like I take my sexuality seriously in small things such as guarding my thoughts from inappropriate innuendos on television; a person who wishes to practice abstinence rather a born again virgin or regular virgin will need to take it seriously as well. That will mean not dating just anybody and everybody who is not on the same page, setting realistic boundaries such as not kicking it in a man’s apartment that we aren’t married to, possibly no kissing, and simply following the leading of the Holy Spirit.

The Holy Spirit leads us and guides us into pathways of truth only. Living abstinent for me is not something that I could do on my own. If I am honest, which I am, I would share that my ability to practice abstinence has been contingent upon the fact that God himself has been my covering giving me wisdom, and guidance on who to keep around and who to let go of and how to be free from my own lust. We cannot continue to practice abstinence if we continue to flirt with sin and sexually compromising situations as the lead character in the show continues to place herself in.

If you take fire into your bosom, you are sure to get burnt. You cannot play with sin especially sexual sin. If I am getting to know a brother and notice a spirit of seduction on him coming at me, I cut him off. I ain’t got time for games. God gives us discernment for a reason. We have to use it. I remember talking to this one guy who thought he had a full-proof get the drawers plan, and it would have worked on me had I not cut him off.

Popular media often looks at virginity as just a sensational thing to try to tempt or disprove virgins as strange, weird, naive’ or imbalanced. It only focuses on the natural mocking or ignoring the spiritual. I have seen some strange reality shows on virgins looking straight foolish that has turned me off. If the media wants to tackle the issue of virginity in a balanced manner then they will need to seek out balanced virgins. We are not weird, freaky, creepy, naive’ and disconnected individuals. We are strong individuals who have made a clear choice to seek to honor God with our bodies and God grants us the ability to do so by his grace.

Being a virgin is not just a physical situation for popularity or sport. It’s not something you try on like a glove, but a choice that reflects a transformation from the inside out. A virgin has to renew her mind. She has to be pure in both body and spirit making a series of smaller choices that lead up to the big choice of no sex until marriage.

It is possible to be a virgin and still be impure in one’s thoughts. This is why we need the Lord and his word to help us to renew our minds and to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. We cannot walk around in our flesh trying to accomplish God’s will on our own.

While it is great that TV One has decided to tackle the topic of abstinence and virginity because of the conversation that surrounds the topic; it is not clear where the main character of the show will be going or how serious she really is about her choice to practice abstinence. Unless she takes things seriously and makes some serious changes, she will end up in a brother’s bed, and I will not be tuning in to watch

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Series on Sisterhood Part 7: The Ultimate Jealousy Test – Liking the same Guy

I’m sure lots of girlfriend relationships have been severed over this especially if the guy has shown interest in both of the girls. This could be a test to test the relationship and the love of God that should be operating inside of us. This situation tests what we say we believe, whether our trust is in God. Also, whether our self-love and love for our neighbor is intact.

The best thing to do in this situation now that you have a foundation of self-love, contentment, value and worth, and loving and valuing others is to make your resolve or decision to humble yourself in the situation preferring to honor your sister above yourself, not to compete with her, but to continue to love her, and that is what real sisters do. Even in the face of testing, and trying temptation they will love at all times (Proverbs 17:17).

She will love for real enduring all things with you, not being self-seeking. If she has to give up the idea of being with a brother to preserve the love for her sister or add to the well being of her sister she will do so because she is a woman characterized by love. That is what real sisters do.

They love one another and cover one another even when it is hard. In the time, during testing is when we will either make a choice to walk in our flesh following the wisdom of the world that says girl you better compete, it ain’t hardly no good dudes out here, get yours while you can, or you will walk in the Spirit trusting in God saying I have never seen the righteous forsaken nor his seed begging for bread (what is needed, proper nourishment.) We have to trust in the Lord to take care of our needs. It is a choice to love our sisters and to remain in proper fellowship with them.

There are many devices in a man’s heart; nevertheless the counsel of the Lord, that shall stand. Proverbs 19:21

What wisdom will you follow? What choice will you make?

Watch the supplemental video below regarding liking the same guy:

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Series on Sisterhood Part 6: Be Willing to do the Hard Work.

As godly women who value God-given covenant relationship, we have to be willing to do the hard work in order to maintain those relationships when God exposes what’s in our hearts. We briefly touched on Cain in the Bible who killed his brother Able because of jealousy in the last blog post. Cain’ s problem was that he was not willing to do the work to get pass what God was exposing in his heart.

God used Cain’ s brother Able as sort of a mirror to expose what was in Cain’ s heart, and God does the same thing with us using covenant relationships to sharpen us making us better for his own glory. This was a good thing. A good relationship that would sharpen Cain and make him better, but he was not willing to do the work.

Cain wanted it easy. He just wanted the hard and uncomfortable situation to be over therefore he took things into his own hands continuing in the flesh making matters worse. Cain simply chose pride rather than humility. The Bible says with pride comes shame, but with the lowly there is wisdom (Proverbs 11:2).

In other words, pride says you have exposed me and shown that I am not perfect, I can no longer hide behind my cloak of perfection. I don’t like this. This has to end. I have to cover my shame, but when we seek to cover our shame by continuing in pride and flesh, we end up bringing more shame and ultimately judgement which is what happened in Cain’ s case.

He was judged to walk the earth several years as a wanderer and no one was supposed to kill him. The contrast of the above mentioned scripture is with the lowly there is wisdom. In other words, when we allow ourselves to realize we don’t have it all together to the point of humility, God is willing to give us wisdom to work through our imperfections whether it is jealousy or whatever the case may be with the lowly there is wisdom.

We see this picture being painted for Cain as an offer from God when God says to Cain if you do well Will you not be accepted (Genesis 4:6-7). In other words, if you humble yourself and come to me for help I will help you with what I’ve allowed to be exposed in your heart and you will be accepted. I want to accept your sacrifice Cain let me show you how I can accept it.

If you do not understand the story at this point, you may want to take a look at Genesis 4 to see the story of how Cain became Jealous of his brother.

The conversation between Cain and God there shows a strong characteristic of God which is how he resists the proud, but gives Grace to the humble. The truth is humility is needed and should always be our choice when God exposes sin in us. It shows our need to depend on Christ and what he did on the cross to complete his work of salvation and regeneration in us.

When God exposes sin in us, it is because he has already set aside the grace for us to work through it if we choose humility. This process of humility is so important in maintaining all good relationships whether brother, sister, mother, or father. It will also be needed in the closest covenant relationship that we will have which is the marriage relationship. We cannot just check out in our flesh as it pertains to pride, and murder our spouse’s character or spirit because of jealousy and pride. We have to do the mature thing and choose humility going to the Lord for his wisdom and both us and our spouses will be made better for it.

Look at your current covenant relationships with your sisters as such preparing you with the life skills needed for a healthy marriage one day.

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Series on Sisterhood Part 5: The Wrong Response to Jealousy.

The wrong response to the emotion or spirit of jealousy is to walk in an unsettled and warring spirit that basically breeds strife, contention, pride, division, and confusion. This should not be among the women of God. This is how friends are separated and relationships are severed. The Bible talks about how jealousy is as cruel as the grave.

A person ruled by jealousy will not stop at assaulting a person’s character until they feel like they have killed the other person. This may not be a physical murder although it can in some cases be such as with Cain and Able in the Bible, but figuratively it is a murdering of another person’s spirit where that person becomes bound up like the person who is jealous of them.

Instead of both women being confident and building one another up, the result becomes two women walking in their insecurities, comparing themselves to others, and not being who God called them to be. That is not sexy, lady-like, nor God like. It just becomes an ugly mess and that is not what God wants.
Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame. Song of Solomon 8:6Love is what overcomes jealousy and love is what will need to be perfected in those who walk in a jealous spirit. As mentioned before love for one’s self that is gained through our relationship and fellowship with God and spills over into love for our sisters.

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Lecrae on connecting with other cultures, overcoming self-hate, and anger and heart-break felt amid young people’s response to racism and violence:

Lecrae on connecting with other cultures, how he overcame self-hate, and the anger and heart-break felt amid young people’s response to racism and violence

This past week I attended the Legacy Disciple Making Conference where a panel discussion was held on racism in lieu of all of the various events that have taken place in our country as it pertains to race relations.

The event was kicked off with the question where does racism come from. As the panel moved along, more in depth issues were covered such as diversity in leadership in the church, genuinely connecting with other cultures, how racism is not an American problem but a worldwide problem, and looking at people from a perspective from outside of one’s own.

Lecrae is quoted as saying, “We have to do away with the idea…, “Aren’t we all Christians or Aren’t we all Americans…?” What I think a lot of people do not take into account is your perspective of what Christian culture is or American culture is fueled by your own ethnicity and in your own personal culture. So when you say well aren’t we all Christians you’re saying aren’t we all like what I think Christians are or what I think Americans are. And we are saying why does it have to be about race?”

The above statement was the basis for which Lecrae declared the need to develop deep and meaningful relationships with people of different backgrounds from outside of one’s own culture. He also discussed how at one point he learned what were new and conservative perspectives regarding race and Christianity that caused him to hate his own culture at one point and time.

The most notable portion of the discussion was when Lecrae described young people in his area of Atlanta after the Michael Brown shooting. He noted how angry and heart-broken they felt and how they just wanted someone to grieve with them and allow them to grieve without reprimanding them as if it is no big deal.

Panel contributors were Joe Thorn, Elicia Horton, Lecrae, and Soong-Chan Rah. The panel was moderated by poet Joseph Solomon of Chase God TV.

See the video clips below:

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Series on Sisterhood Part 4: Self-Love

 A woman who embraces a spirit of jealousy doesn’t have a problem with her sister. She really has a problem with herself, and the emphasis placed on her sister is a distraction from her dealing with her own self-rejection.

The greatest commandment is to love God with all of our hearts, all of our souls, all of our minds and all of our strength and to love our neighbor as we love ourselves.

It is clear based on scripture that the best way to love someone else is to first love ourselves. In order to love ourselves we have to get the appropriate image of ourselves which comes from God. God says that he made us in a manner to be fearfully and wonderfully made. That means that he cut no corners in making us but was very specific about how he made us. We have the beautiful skin that we have intentionally by God and he calls it wonderful. We have the eyes, face, and nose that we have intentionally by God and he calls it wonderful.

We have the voice that we have intentionally by God and he calls it wonderful. We have gifts discovered and non-discovered intentionally by God and he calls it wonderful. We have a God-given purpose specific to us given by God and he calls it wonderful. We each and every last one of us are God’s masterpiece or work of art. We’ve been made in God’s image bearing the reflection of the highest and most honorable that there is and God calls that good and wonderful. We have to know this for ourselves however, and this comes through our intimate relationship with God. The more time we spend with God the more he can make us better and reveal to us who we are causing us to love who he’s made us to be and to love others.

As it pertains to our beauty, the word of God tells us to adorn ourselves. That means we are supposed to look in the mirror at ourselves and say wow! You bad girl! We should adorn ourselves so, that it doesn’t matter if we are in a room with the most beautiful women in the world, we should not shrink back in becoming jealous because we know that we are our best and our best is necessary and intended by God.

Ask God to give you a style that looks radiant on you. Ask God to help you with your hairstyles and makeup and so forth and he will. If we lack any type of wisdom God is able to give us that wisdom that we lack. I pray all the time about styles of clothes, hairstyle ideas, make up etc. Sometimes, we have those moments as women where we can get in a slump from of neglecting to take care of ourselves by taking care of others.

We are natural nurturers you know. In those times, we need a pick me up quick to feel beautiful, whole, and valuable again. Go get your nails done or do your own sometimes, by a new outfit, take a cute selfie here and there, try a new doo. Schedule workout time or plan healthy meals, and take quiet time for yourself to just do you. All of these things will help us as women to be in a position where our self-love will be on full and thus we can pour that love on our sisters instead of jealousy, envy, and strife.

Lastly, God reminds us that we are loved and worthy of love as women whether single or married. Sometimes, he will allow a mentor to take interest in you who may be older or more mature. He may also speak into your spirit reminding you that he loves you and you are beautiful. He also uses family members, friends, and others to re-affirm how he feels about you. Other times, he will use a nice gentleman on the street to speak to you in a respectful manner reminding you that you are beautiful wanting nothing else but to say hello and to compliment you. We need to take all of the good in so that we can pour out good while rejecting the bad.

Watch the supplemental video below:

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