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What Now that I have No Reason to Say No Part II

The job that I work with does contract work at times for an outside agency which requires me to work downtown at times with others from different agencies. One morning, I had gotten to work and one of my sisters in Christ from one of the other agencies was just on the clouds. I wondered what the deal was, and little did I know she had the same issue that I had.
She met someone who met appropriate qualifications as well on a trip to Cuba. They’d been talking for some time now, and she had been pretty content like me. She shared some tidbits of wisdom that she had implored. The first was her accountability tactics. For one, most of her accountability partners are married as she shared that they give her a more realistic picture of how to get to her goal of marriage.
She is like me also in that she is not really giddy when it comes to men. She is more open and laid back as far as getting to know a gentleman as trustworthy and mature enough to maintain a relationship with her more so than the emotions of romance. Not that emotions and romance are bad, but without the appropriate foundation romance and emotions are fleeting.
Thus, she initiated a conversation about guarding one another’s heart. How can they guard one another’s heart and what boundaries can they set in place to do so. These were the questions she asked. In part, because she was not sure where she wanted to go. If they’d just be friends, potential marriage partners, or seasonal associates.

Sometimes we just don’t know what a person is to be in our lives, but we have God’s peace that he is to be there. In those cases, it is highly important to guard one another’s heart. I planned on having a similar conversation with my friend and to set some boundaries to make sure that our relationship is heading into the right direction.
When I first bought up the ideal of guarding one another’s hearts, my friend somewhat took it as a rejection, and I had to expound that it was not a rejection, but whether laying a foundation of simply getting to know each other over the emotional and physical aspects that a romantic relationship can bring to the table. Besides a guy who can be a girl’s friend first has a better chance with a girl, than a guy who just pops up and expects a girl to just immediately be all into a full blown relationship. It’s like, “I don’t even know you fam!”
My new friend was already doing a pretty good job of guarding my heart prior to the conversation; however, it’s a good ideal to still have these types of conversations so that we are not caught off guard by becoming too intimate too soon. When I say too intimate, I am not just talking about sex, but too intimate in conversation speaking to one another as if we are already in a full blown relationship or as if we are sure things are heading that way when we really have made a decision yet.

One of my accountability partners cautioned me regarding this. Her take was that saying things like I miss you too soon or I love you too soon could escalate the relationship before an appropriate foundation is layed in getting to know one another. While this can be wisdom, we want to naturally be ourselves as well. Part of my personality is to tell someone that I miss them when I have not spoken with them for a while, so I could only hold out so long on that one. The Holy Spirit is the best leader and director of what should or should not be said. The best advice that I received on what to do is to be led by the Spirit in this process.
While we did not leave the conversation with any specific rules of what can be said and what cannot be said, at least it is out there that we are taking our time right now to simply get to know one another to see if we’d be good fits for marriage. This provides a more realistic aspect of where we are and reduces pressure that can come from unexpressed expectations.

As I’ve shared with my students in times past the only way you will be able to tell if someone is for you is through the process of time. Time will tell. During that time, proper boundaries and the fear of the Lord protects us as we make our decisions on how to proceed forward.
So far, I’ve already learned some interesting things about him such as what his passions are and whether he is sure of his purpose or not. I think the most interesting discussion that we have had so far is about the Holy Spirit. How cool to have someone that I can talk with about both natural and spiritual things without being looked at like huh. Praise God! It’s nice to have someone in our lives where we don’t have to be afraid of being ourselves. Well, this is a new experience for me that I hope every single woman of God who is desiring and believing God for someone gets to experience.

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What now that I have no reason to say no

Up until now, I haven’t had a reason to entertain a guy for a reasonable length of time. Either the brothers were immature, in their flesh, or I just did not see them as a possible romantic interest or neither did they see me as the same.

However, recently I’ve found myself in a position that came straight out of the blue.  I met a godly and mature young brother over the Valentine’s Day weekend. How ironic. Ironic because, I live my life pretty content as a single. I had just written a blog on being thankful for the love that we have even in the absence of romantic love.

Now that I have the interest of a handsome, saved, mature, and considerate gentleman who is clear about his interest (not playing games) plus intentions toward me of seeking a wife; I kind of don’t know what to do. I had gotten so used to dismissing the wrong guys; that I was completely caught off guard when the right type of guy appeared.

Questions that I never really had to delve into as much before now come to surface, such as how should I now implore accountability, how do I continue to be consistently faithful to God as a single now dating, am I supposed to feel lovey dovey all of a sudden or does it take time.

All of these questions come to mind now because more than a desire for a godly spouse filled with intimate companionship and love, I want to please God. Instead of trying to figure everything out, I will enjoy the journey of getting to know the gentleman in a non romantic way. I don’t want to force anything, but want things to happen naturally.

Finally, I will continue to seek the Lord regarding everything while being thankful. Thankful, for being able to witness for myself that all of the lies that I have had to fight up until this point remain untrue. Lies that say: There are no good godly men, men don’t want women set apart by God, compromise is a must to have a relationship. The devil is a liar!

We as women don’t have to compromise who we are to get a man. It is our willingness to embrace who we are that sets us apart making us attractive to the right man. The right man will praise us for our virtue instead of seeking to entice us to lower our standards to meet selfish desires.

Proverbs 31:28 -30 – Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all” (He sets  her apart from the rest). Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Again, this type of a woman is set apart from the rest as a cut above. Ladies, we have to know who we are and be bold in who we are, and the real men of God will recognize that. It is similar also with men of God. True women of God will recognize that, and hold those men in high esteem.

Stay tuned for part II as I learn what to do now that I have no reason to say no.

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How We Wait Determines Our Outcome

Everyone has to wait for something in life. As believers that is part of our development in learning how to trust in the Lord. In my new book, “The Single Christian Woman’s Guide.” I discuss how I have been blessed as a single to see both sides of the spectrum. Meaning, I have been blessed to see both singles and married couples waiting on the Lord for something.
Waiting on the Lord does not stop when we get married. It is something that we will experience for the rest of our lives. When God fulfills one promise, we will wait for him to fulfill the next. I have married friends who are waiting to have a baby, others who are waiting for their children to grow old enough to work on fulfilling their dreams. Waiting is a process that helps us to increase our intimacy with God. It causes us to be in situations outside of our control whereby we have no choice, but to trust God.
God reveals himself, and our faith is made stronger. The children of Israel had to wait until God raised up the deliverer Moses. Had the children of Israel not been in bondage for 400 years, how would they have known that the Lord could deliver. Waiting on God produces intimacy with God. It also solidifies our relationship with God to know that he is a keeper of all of his promises.
How we wait on God also determines the outcome of our waiting on the Lord. I have been meditating on Matthew 25 where there is a parable given about 10 virgins. 5 virgins were wise, and the other 5 virgins were foolish. The wise virgins kept their lamps filled with oil, while the foolish virgins took for granted their need for oil and ran out. They ended up missing the bridegroom when he came because they had to go back and prepare at the last minute instead of remaining in a position of readiness like the other 5 wise virgins.

We know that this parable is in regards to Jesus Christ coming back for the church, which is figurative for the bride of Christ, and those that were unprepared will miss Christ’s coming and be shut out of the marriage ceremony to take place between Christ and the church. However, the principal is still the same regardless if we are relating the story to Christ and the church or singles waiting for the spouse that God has promised.
There is something that we have to do on our parts. We have to remain faithful as we wait. If we read the story of the 10 virgins, we see that they all became drowsy, restless and fell asleep. In other words, they all faced the same temptations, hardships, and pulls from other things to neglect what was necessary in staying ready for their promise. However, some remained faithful and ready while some did not.

We have a choice as singles how we will respond to this waiting process. We do not have to give in to compromise and things of the world that would rob us of our position of readiness. We can remain faithful knowing at the appointed time, God’s promise will show up suddenly like the bridegroom in the story and we will not have time to re-prepare.

At that point, if we aren’t in position to receive, we may have to take a pass on what God had for us in that moment and prepare for another opportunity. Thankfully, by God’s grace he does provide us with other opportunities.

This is what I believe is going on right now in the body of Christ. Those that have been faithful (not perfect, but faithful) waiting on the Lord, being obedient all that they know how, trusting the Lord all that they know how, and looking crazy in their obedience; God is getting ready to suddenly bless those people with what they have been waiting on.

Singles that have waiting on the Lord for a spouse and were faithful in their singleness are about to get blessed. There are many relationships that God is getting ready to build this year in the kingdom of God for his glory.

Those that have been unfaithful, and have walked after the spirit of the world, even putting their mouths on some of those who remained faithful are going to see the Lord bless those that have been faithful, and they will be provoked to prepare and to begin to wait like the 5 foolish virgins who had to return again to get their oil and prepare for what was coming.

Those that were unfaithful are going to willingly take a pass because they know within themselves they are not ready. They will began to prepare, and wait for another opportunity when they are indeed ready, and God will get all of the glory.

It is not a vain thing to wait on the Lord! We can remain faithful in our waiting with full assurance that God will bring his word to pass that he has promised! God is good!

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Revisiting being a good steward over our singleness

In my new book, “The Single Christian Woman’s Guide”, I briefly discuss how the kingdom works differently than the kingdom of this world. In God’s kingdom, once we have been faithful where we are at, we then become promoted to the next level. What does this tell us? Obedience is key.

“His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!” Matthew 25:23

The above is a spiritual principal that God has set in place in his kingdom for us to be faithful with what we have be given. Just because we are singles doesn’t mean that we do not have anything to be faithful over. Often, we may have assignments from God that married folk cannot handle due to our capacity.

I just recently got back in town from a certification training for my job where we have to keep our certifications current yearly to continue to provide the best service to our clients. Now, that I am back in town, I have come back to a slew of things that I have to complete such as paying bills, cleaning house, cooking for the week, and checking up on those in my family and friends network, as well as continuing my assignment with Intercession For A Generation, Holy Neck Swirl, and promotion of my book.

The things that singles are assigned to do doesn’t stop. Whatever our assignments from God, we have to remain faithful knowing that our faithfulness will garner us the skills needed to remain faithful in the next level that we will be promoted to by God.

What happens often to singles is we get distracted by what goes on around us. Who is dating who, who isn’t dating at all, and the culture becomes the definer of our lives instead of the assignment that God has entrusted to us. Obedience for singles is key and the lack thereof will surely set us back.

Being a good steward of singleness also requires trust. Trust is a big deal. God has to be able to trust us with what he has given us. A level of trust well attained to allows God to see that we are ready for the next level.

Being thankful in all things is fruit that we trust in God . In all things give thanks the word of God says. A person who is not thankful or content will consistently fell to realize the blessing in what she has. She will constantly try to change her place in life wasting lots of time being a bad example to others and herself.

She becomes stuck, and those who follow her become the same way. We should be so fulfilled in our intimate relationship with Christ, and secondly with what he has called us to do that we don’t even have time to be UN-thankful. The person who doesn’t have time to be UN-thankful will look up to see that her situation has suddenly changed for the better.

We don’t have to be experts as singles, but when we give our hearts to God fully, we will find ourselves faithful, trustworthy, thankful, and promoted to the next level.

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No she didn’t come at Meagan Good Like That

Recently, I watched the taping of the interview that Devon Franklin and his wife Meagan Good did with Toure’ Roberts for Valentine ’s Day. During the interview, there was a question and answer session. A woman skated around the issue of when Meagan Good had worn a dress to the Soul Train Awards show that revealed large parts of her breast.
Finally, the woman spoke with such condescending judgement and strife that even if what she was trying to say was right, it would not be well received. Her words went something like this: I was in the store and I saw a magazine cover where your breast were out, and I just think that what we say should match up with what we do, and therefore, “You are going to cover up next time right?”

The audience became upset and Devon quickly came to his wife’s defense saying, “That she is going to wear whatever she wants to wear.” Meagan was clearly hurt, and shed a few tears, but the conversation eventually moved on.

Three things:
There is a way to communicate our convictions in a non-condescending and a non-judgmental way. It should always be done in love.

We are at different levels of maturity and grace in God, which means where one person is in their convictions it may be totally different than another person’s and that person still deserves mutual grace, love, and respect even if we disagree.

Thirdly, we are not to take the place of the Holy-Spirit, who convicts men of sin and wrong doing. God doesn’t even force men to obey him. He places on our hearts his word and gives us a choice to obey or disobey. If God does not seek to control us then we ought not seek to control one another, but to submit those things to God in prayer that we are tempted to control another on.

The above can be a hard lesson which takes discipline, but it can be done.

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Conversations with the Old School: Racism & Self-Hate Part II

Last week we talked about an older man in his 80s who struggled with self-hate for years growing up under segregation, and how he carried the ideas of self-hate even after integration began to take place. I asked an older woman who is 75 years old for her response to the older gentleman, and how the ideas of self-hate and racism affected her as a woman growing up.

She recalled the familiar poem that kids would chant about the skin tone that went something like if you are “light you are alright, brown stay around, and black get to the back.” She shared that for some time she did not notice a difference in color, but the older Afro-Americans did. According to my friend, the older adults had the ideal of inferiority ingrained into them. Once, her generation came up, she described that the way that she saw herself was contingent upon the support system that she had.

Her surrounding community was protective of how she saw herself. She told a brief story of how as a child she was coloring in a coloring book and decided to color a Black woman’s hair blonde. Her dad quickly corrected her sharing that blonde was not a natural hair color for an African-American woman, and that she needed to color the woman’s hair something different. He wanted to protect her from the idea that what was White or light was better, and what was darker or closer to Black was bad.

He did a good job along with her mother. The woman grew up to marry a man who was a Black militant brother similar to the Black Panthers of the 1960s and 1970s. She has told me a few stories about her hubby and his passion to promote his people. Clearly, she became surrounded by African-Americans who took pride in who they were and in their culture. She also mentioned a positive teacher of hers who would ingrain an attitude of unity among Afro-Americans instead of division regarding shade of skin tone. The teacher would say that Afro-Americans were a rainbow of beauty over and over again reminding the students to appreciate their worth.

Thankfully, all of these positive affects helped my older woman friend to see herself in a manner that was healthy for both her and others around her. One thing that I have learned in my dealings with some older Afro-Americans who still carry an inferiority complex due to their skin-tone is they may just need a little help from the younger generation to cause them to accept themselves.

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Seeking Love while denying the love that we already have

What up lovelies? As we know that wonderful day of Love is soon approaching where many will snuggle up with a boo, or at least wish they had someone to snuggle up with. Maybe, I am a weirdo because I just plain and simply don’t care about Valentines day right now as I am a single.
I am not imagining myself snuggling up with an imaginary boo-thing, but instead I am appreciating the love that I already have. Often times in our wishing and hoping for the future, we end up forgetting all about what we have, and becoming UN-thankful.

In all things give thanks for this is the will of God concerning us. 1 Thessalonians 5:8

At work today, I have been quietly communing with the Lord under my breathe singing, praying in the spirit, and feeling God’s presence. As I walked out on my lunch break today, I began to pray out loud getting into my car thanking God for the ability to feel his presence, and to know that he is real. There are so many out there who don’t even have that. We are so blessed as the children of God.
Not only am I blessed with the privilege to recognize and commune with God in his presence, but I am blessed to be in a position of wholeness where my worth as a single woman is not contingent upon a day, whether I get flowers or chocolate or a title of wife or girlfriend. My worth and worthiness of love is contingent upon the fact that it just is. I am just worthy of love because God made me that way, and he loves me for me.
Many of us are guilty of putting off or not appreciating the love that we already have due to wanting a romantic love. It is just as important to celebrate the love that we already have such as from of our parents, siblings, and friends as singles while waiting on romantic love.
In a world, where people put God off for the immediate attention of another to feel loved, desired, or sought after for a day, a few months, or however long some of these relationships last; It is best to reflect on and appreciate the love that we already have in Christ as the foundation and allow other loves in our life to grow off of that. Love founded on Christ is the love that will truly last, and that is the type of love that I want as a single and am willing to wait for. #Thankful 🙂

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Embracing My Identity

People say when a person gets into their thirties they no longer care what people think of them. They just do them and let it ride! Well, I don’t know if that is what is going on, but I feel like a good majority of my twenties was in a sense fighting and warring with the idea of me truly being and showing others myself.

I discuss in my latest book (The Single Christian Woman’s Guide) about how sometimes we buck against the call of God for our lives when we don’t understand it altogether. Often, as young people we view the identity that God calls us to as rejection. If I commit all the way to my convictions given to me by God, I will be rejected or I will not fit in, and lastly I will end up alone.
Satan is good at painting a negative picture of us embracing our identity because he knows that our identity comes from our consecration, (willingness to dedicate ourselves to the purpose and call of God for our lives), which leads to our purpose and that opens us up to endless possibilities of seeing the hand of the Lord at work in our own personal and individual lives.

One principal that I learned a long time ago is that a consecrated life can get you places that others will not be able to go. To be consecrated means to be set apart for a specific purpose by God. Therefore, that purpose from God supersedes any and all plans, culture, desires, and such. All of these things: desires, plans, interpretation of culture must be submitted to God in the life of a consecrated believer.

When I was about 19, I learned a valuable lesson from dating a young man at the time. We were in an unequally yoked relationship. We were together often because we worked together, went out a couple of times, and he came to my house a couple of times and met my family. We considered each other friends, but it was clear that he wanted more. When he came to my house, I remember my brother asking me after he left if he was saved. It was because he was not saved that he could only get so close to me and eventually had to fall back altogether.

The lesson that I learned was that when we embrace who we are, it determines who can get close to us. This meaning that everyone is not going to be able to be in my close circle because it would require me to alter my consecration to the Lord. When a person knows who she is, she should embrace that identity not allowing any relationship to cause her to compromise from who God called her to be.

The final part of the lesson learned at 19 was the understanding of why Jesus Christ had to die in order to reconcile us to himself. Because God’s identity is that he is holy, and cannot deny himself; he did something drastic in order to bring us close to him. He took his most precious and only son, made him to die to pay for our sins, and gave us his son’s righteousness. Thus, when we trust in and rely on Jesus Christ for our salvation, righteousness, and wholeness, we then are bought up to the standard that allows us to be in fellowship with God. Off the chain, how God could do that.

We learn from God himself, the importance of not denying our identities, because God did not deny who he was, but bought up those who are willing to the standard necessary to hang with him. In a similar fashion, we as God’s children should allow those close access to us who are willing to come up to an appropriate standard. This includes friendships with males and females as well as romantic relationships.

The trouble with denying who we are comes in when we are around other believers who have a different level of consecration to the Lord, and having different levels of consecration to the Lord isn’t wrong. Some people have convictions about certain things because of the call of God on their lives that others do not.

For example, John the baptist in the Bible did not drink alcohol, nor cut his hair, among other things. While Jesus did drink wine. The consecration required for their purposes was carried out appropriately and they still remained on one accord with one another without feeling as though one or the other should change. However, in our culture when we perceive that we are different from our brother or sister, we feel a pressure to change ourselves. This should not be the case when we know that we are operating in our identities given to us by God himself.

This assurance and surety regarding our identities can only come from an intimate relationship with God. God will reveal his will for how he wants us to conduct ourselves. He often uses others in authority over us to confirm or reveal our identities and he will give us peace in our hearts regarding our identities as well.

From then it is up to us to embrace it or not. Because of the awkwardness of not fitting in, we often make the choice to deny who we are to fit in with others. The truth is there are several others out there just like us who love God with all of our hearts and willingly set ourselves apart in obedience to God for God’s glory, yet have the same fear that we are the only ones. If everyone adopted the ideal that they are the only ones who are weird, peculiar, and set apart for God; there would be no one living for God.

The thing is when we set our identities to the side, we set aside our purpose and every open door that the Lord had planned for us in that identity. It has been a part of God’s plan for my life for me not to have a boyfriend until I meet my husband. Of course, that makes me appear awkward or weird, and I could easily try to go out and get a boyfriend and cause all types of problems for myself, but that would take me off of the beat and path that God has for me, and I am not willing to do that. Instead, I make the choice to continue to embrace who I am and follow Christ

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Your Beauty is in Your Uniqueness!

We all have had those times when we have struggled with our appearance as women especially single women. Sometimes, we can feel like the baddest chick, and at other times we can feel like nothing we do to improve or highlight our beauty is enough.
The latter seems to always be apparent when there is that guy that seems just like the perfect guy, but for whatever reason he slips away, and we begin to blame or question ourselves thinking maybe I should have been prettier like this girl or that girl, and all along God is saying, but I made you perfect. Perfect in the fact that we are lacking nothing as women with our very own unique beauty to be as beautiful, and bold as God envisioned for us to be.

The last time I had those feelings the Lord begin to deal with me about a few things. He spoke into my spirit saying, “Your Beauty is in your Uniqueness.” In other words, there is no one else quite like me. Even though there are look-a-likes in the world, there is no one who could possess everything so to the “T” that when you see them it’s just like seeing me.

From our birth marks to our skin tones, facial features, hair texture, beautiful eyes that incite intrigue, voice, and yes those curves. All of these things are the workings of the Lord our artist, and the best part of it all is no matter how any of these features change in us, He still loves us unconditionally.

Another thing that God used to encourage me was his word that says:

We are the handiwork of God… Ephesians 2:10

Who would dare call the work of the Lord shoddy or not good enough? That is what we do when we put ourselves down because our beauty may not be up to par with that of others. God made us unique, and that is beautiful.

The last thing that God used to encourage me was a word from the Lord. Thankfully, I have been blessed to work with lots of saved co-workers. One morning before getting ready for work, I had done my hair and lip gloss, plus mascara like I normally do, and I was looking kind of cute. I thought to myself, I am cute today just not cute enough to get a godly mature man of God.

Sidenote: There is so much stacked against women that sometimes we can droop into the negative if we are not careful. They say: There are more women than me, Black women are disproportionately single and will not marry, and then there is the fear of not being beautiful enough to attract an appropriate gentlemen because men basically have their choice. I talked with a very mature married man of God about this and he shared with me that it isn’t so much the physical beauty that a man of God is looking for, but the woman’s ability to remain hidden in Christ as a single woman. He shared that men of God want that deeper connection than just beauty and that can only be had with a certain type of woman. So ladies, Know your worth. We are definitely more than just that physical thing.

Back to the word from the Lord: So, I got to work and without me even mentioning to my co-worker how I felt, she shared with me that I had struggled with my image from time to time, and that despite that struggle God wants me to know that I am beautiful. She shared how when God puts a man and a woman together the woman doesn’t have to take on persona to be this type of girl or that type of girl that maybe she feels would be more acceptable or beautiful to the man. She shared that the man that God had for me would love my style and the way that I carry myself, and that it is just beautiful how God puts that together. She shared that it really doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks at that point
only the couple and the two will be so happy and satisfied with one another.

Did you know that the Lord is concerned about your self-esteem? He is concerned about every aspect of us that leads to wholeness. That includes mind, body, and spirit. God doesn’t want us just thinking anything about ourselves. He wants our thinking about ourselves to come on up to his standard. That is why God corrected the way that I was thinking with a word of wisdom. If God doesn’t check our wrong thinking, then we will continue to believe wrong about ourselves, and begin to settle for less, but less isn’t what God has for us. He has his best, and in order to receive God’s best, we have to be whole.

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…Romans 12:2

For as he thinks in his heart, so is he… Proverbs 23:7

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Why Giving is the Anecdote to Loneliness

Sometimes people ask me questions like it must be really lonely being single for so long, and I think to myself well I don’t really have a big issue with loneliness. Loneliness as we know is a feeling of being alone that we can feel whether we are by ourselves or not; while being alone is simply being by ourselves.

It is not necessarily a bad thing to be by ourselves. Sometimes, it can be a good thing. When I am by myself, I get a lot done because I don’t have someone to distract me. How one feels being alone, can depend on her personality. For example, if a person is an introvert like I am, that person may need that alone time to recharge before going back into the world mingling around people.

Whereas an extrovert, on the other hand may feel overwhelmed from being alone. Whatever the personality, I’ve learned that giving of your time, and talent to others can be one of the best anecdotes for loneliness and it helps in personal development as well.

Just a few weeks ago, I ran into a staff leader from a group that I used to serve in while in college. It was amazing how everything that I learned serving with him, I am still currently using in my personal ministry. As a young person, I would visit a group called InterVarsity Christian Fellowship and one day the members of the group nominated me to be a leader. I had no clue as to what I’d be doing, but it seemed fun to do something new.

In the process, I discovered that I had a gift to teach, and deal with people among other things. Of course, our gifts need to be developed or else our gifts will just lie dormant, and go unused.  What better way to develop our gifts is there then to volunteer our gifts and talents under the instruction of those already operating in their gifts, we can do nothing but flourish.

For this reason I remind you to fan into flame the gift of God, which is in you through the laying on of my hands. 1 Timothy 1:6 (NIV)


The next time a holiday comes along where singles tend to feel some type of way, why not, check and see if there is someone in need of your unique gifts or abilities where you can serve them. In turn, you are really serving yourself, because you become developed, establish healthy self-esteem after utilizing your gifts, and healthy relationships with others along the way.

The Single life is not a sentence to lonely and unproductive days wondering and wishes for a date. The Single life can be very purposeful, and full of all types of joy and triumph if we allow it. Let’s consider others as singles, and watch God see to it that we are considered as well in personal growth, and fellowship with others.

Don’t be misled–you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. Galatians 6:7 (NLT)

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