What if men are so used to women lowering their standard just to have a man that when they come across a chick who knows who she is and isn’t willing to compromise they are left in awe?
That says so much to me that a man who considers himself a Christian is shocked that a woman who considers herself a Christian is actually holding up the standards Christ set for her.
What if men were not just in awe of women who held up a high standard? What if men were moved to maturity not by a woman compromising booing up with a dude hoping he will change, but a woman who will not entertain any further conversation until a change is made in the right direction. A real change.
We as women have so many complaints about men and a lot of them are warranted. From the Christian brother who acts like the world, women carrying both the weight of a man and a woman, men wanting only sex without the responsibility of commitment, and the controlling man who confuses controlling a woman with his manhood.
However, are we doing all that is in our power to influence them the right way? Not in a way that would compromise our well-being. Are we doing all that we can by teaching our daughters by example to stand so that they will not have to go through the things that some of us have?
Are we buying into the lies pushed on us by media that show a powerful woman as a woman who controls a man with her body or are we practicing self-control in respecting our bodies requiring the same respect from others?
What if God created men with a higher sex drive so they would be inspired to do right by women in order to get some in an appropriate manner meaning marriage?
What if they didn’t get what they want without giving us what we want a godly committed relationship where the man is the head and the woman assists him as a unit of one walking together under God (godly-marriage).
The title of this blog comes from a gentlemen that I talked to for five days and told him we could not talk anymore. He asked why and I shared my reasons which to him he interpreted as a high standard which it was, but I know I am worth it.
I know I am worth having peace of mind with the gentleman that I choose to spend my life with. Women risk a lot in relationships allowing our bodies to be changed to have a man’s babies, giving out emotionally, spiritually, and in other ways.
The least a woman should be able to have is to be able to feel secure. The woman who chooses to dedicate her world to a man should at least get the same respect in return. This security, respect, and peace should not just be communicated in words, but in actions. Until mature actions in men who pursue us are shown, we as women should hold fast to our standards and our standards will protect us if our standard comes from God.
We as women are beautiful and powerful influencers whether we know it or not. Behind many of the important decisions made is a woman influencing things to go either one way or the other. Eve influenced Adam to go against the commandment of God in the Garden of Eden and the world is still paying for that now.
Esther in the old testament influenced a king to spare a whole nation. Pilate’s wife who was warned in a dream by God, warned her husband not to have anything to do with the crucifixion of Jesus Christ; therefore, her husband washed his hands of the matter after seeking to offer the people another man to be crucified instead of Jesus (Matthew 27:19 and vs. 24).
Pilate was in a position where he was in authority, but did not quite know what to do. God had already given him a helper, his wife to provide what he lacked and to point him in the right direction. Unfortunately, all men aren’t in a position to hear God yet, or to even recognize his voice when he speaks. All men do not have the capacity to give us what we feel we earnestly need from them which is love because they have not yet learned those things for themselves yet.
Therefore, instead of compromising ourselves for the affection of the wrong men, how about looking to God as he teaches us how to influence this world for him until he sends the right man. Men will begin to see your light along the way that you may or may not even notice, and may began to change on their own because of your influence.
It is so encouraging that when you look at some of the biggest events that took place in the Bible there was a woman involved some way some how. For example, when God wanted to send a deliver to deliver his children out of Egypt he used Moses’ mother to make a basket and hide her son to preserve his life, when it was time for Solomon to become King God used a woman, Bathsheba to ensure that it happened, when God got ready to save the world he found a woman who was highly regarded by heaven Mary to give birth to the Son of God.
Women have so much power of influence, and it is important that we use that wisely allowing our influence to be yielded to God. If the devil can influence a woman, he can influence nations, leaders, children and many people as a whole. Don’t get caught holding up the wrong standard of influence. Hold up the standard that God has given to us to hold up. Don’t apologize to men who cannot meet that standard. That’s not your problem, it’s theirs. Don’t be afraid to be confident in who God has called you to be. If your confidence comes from God then you should be confident and bold in it. If your confidence comes from temporal things such as how you look alone, I’d suggest grabbing a Bible and getting a prayer closet to spend some time with God. The more time you spend with God, the more he will invest his desires in you and show you who you are in Christ.
If you have not made it to the point where you are confident in Christ’s standard for you, and who he has called you to be, then hang around some other mature, godly, and sound women because the more a person hangs around wise people, the wiser that person becomes (Proverbs 13:20).
Women need to began to hold up a standard and show that we have more to bring to the table than what is between our legs. We should expect more from the man who will hold our attention than pleasing words that only soothe for the moment and in the end hurt our souls. If we want to see positive change, then we have to be the seed that brings about that change.
Being an influence can be as simple as when a man shows you he isn’t right for you in the beginning to let him go instead of waiting down the line for hearts to be broken knowing all along that he isn’t the one God that God has approved for you.
The gentleman that I talked to for five days and then gently cut off has something to now think about before he pursues the next girl. Maybe he will use our experience to work on himself which would be great. Or maybe he will continue to mess around until he is older, but at least I did what I was supposed to do and I did not have to go through a lot of drama in the process.
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