Oh the joys and the struggles of being single as a mature adult. I’m 31 years old. I know my readers are shocked because I look 19, but yes I am over 30 years old (LOL smiley face). Once you hit 30 years old, it’s not uncommon to do a life evaluation. You ask yourself questions as far as what am I doing with my life? Where am I going? Am I on the path I would like to be and so on. If you are not careful, at 30 your life evaluation can turn out to be only rehearsing the expectations of those around you concerning you and your love life.
By 30 years old, we are old enough to know that the expectations of others do not define who we are. We have to remember in the course of hearing everyone else’s voice and everyone else’s opinion about where we should be in life romantically and otherwise, that we should pay the more earnest attention to what God says for our lives.
I remember a while back, I was fasting and praying seeking God about all of the dreams and goals that he had put inside of me and how I should go about accomplishing them. I remember clearly, God gave me this scripture that said, ” For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them (Philippians 2:10, KJV)
The NLT version says, ” For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago (Philippians 2:10)
Finally, the NIV version says, ” For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do (Philippians 2:10)
That scripture quieted my spirit and encouraged me to know that, Hey! God is on my side and I am not in this alone. God wants these dreams and goals to happen in me just as much as I do if not more because it was his idea to begin with.
Knowing what God is saying for you is the most important thing for your life, especially in the midst of several voices sharing their opinion on you and even your own voice of doubt about yourself. Guess who’s idea marriage was? Yes, it was God’s idea. If God wills for you to be married then don’t worry about marriage. Take the load off of your self. Stop trying to figure out how you will do this and that, but rather ask God what am I supposed to be focusing on right now. Whatever that is then do that to your best abilities and continue to walk with God.
Don’t allow someone else’s expectations of you to cause you not to enjoy your own life. Begin to cherish and make the most out of where God has placed you right now. One last thing, as a single mature adult, I would sometimes think it awkward to be so old yet not married because my parents we’re married at 18 and lots of people from the 50’s and 60’s we’re married by then also, but recently, I was reading the Bible and found that Isaac was 40 years old when he was married to Rebekah. I thought to myself this is not a new thing. There has always been single adults of a mature age . There is nothing new under the sun, and truly there is nothing too hard for God. Keep living, dreaming, and watching your dreams unfold, and welcome to maturity.
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